dating, relationships, couple, happy, smiling people, couple bowling, the reporter and the girl

Guest Contribution: 4 Ways to Get a Second Date

Getting back into the dating game can be rough if you’ve been out of it for a few years (or decades). Maybe you once considered yourself a Romeo, but now you’re out of practice and not sure how to proceed. Plus, you know the dating rules have changed since the last time you were on the market. So how do you make sure you score a second date with a nice woman, next time someone piques your interest? Here are four ways.

1. Don’t Come on Too Strong

Many men who re-enter the dating scene again after a long break make the mistake of coming on too strong and scaring the woman away. She may be beautiful and amazing, but don’t keep telling her so over and over again. This will put you in “potential creepy stalker” territory in her mind right away. In addition, avoid:

  • telling her you could fall in love with her
  • planning a date that is too extravagant or too romantic
  • kissing her too deeply and too long when you say goodnight
  • lavishing her with overly expensive gifts

Instead, be polite, alert, and give her a small gift at the beginning of the date, or even before. Consider having flowers delivered to her office the day of your date to show her that you’re looking forward to the evening ahead.

2. Be a Good Listener

Another mistake men make on first dates is talking too much about themselves. While she does want to know certain things about you, she also wants you to know about her, and she wants to see if you’re a good listener. Make sure the conversation is two-sided and ask plenty of questions about her childhood, family, job, and hobbies.

3. Keep the Conversation Light

There’s an old saying that you should never talk about religion or politics in polite company. The same is true for a first date. Avoid discussing anything that could lead to potential arguments. Now is also not the time to talk about things that are too intimate, such as your most recent colonoscopy or your ex-wife’s cheating ways. Keep the conversation topics light and positive to make way for enjoyable conversation.

4. Pay for the Date

It may sound old-fashioned, but most of today’s women still expect the man to pay for the first date. Going Dutch on subsequent dates is perfectly okay, and if she really likes you, she may even offer to pay on future dates. However, you won’t get any future dates with her if you don’t pay for the first. Lack of paying shows a lack of consideration and general lack of manners on your part. Make her feel like a lady, and insist on treating her to a nice meal on your first date.


Foreclosure Rates on Homeowners

Hello Blogworld,

I recently published this article at Atlanta Black Star, about a woman named Ruth, who is trying to work with her bank for hardship assistance. You would think the best interest on both sides would be to keep her home, but it looks like PNC Bank is pushing foreclosure on this elderly woman.

What should she do?

Please click on the title to read the article.


The Taste Of A Woman!

Ladies, would you let your partner take a trip down there? Click on the title to read this article on why you should!

“Muff diving.  Giving head.  Eating out.   Eating a box lunch.  Eating at the Y.  Clam diving.  Kneeling at the altar.  Pearl diving.  Going down.  These are just a few of the many euphemisms used to describe the act of cunnilingus, that glorious joining of mouth and vagina…”

via @Sexy Single Mommy Blog


What’s On Your Mind

#Ad I use Grammarly’s Plagiarism Checker because posting the same thing over and over again is the definition of insanity. Or spam.

Dear Readers,

It has been a while since I talked to you all (between the guest contributions and kindle giveaways) and simply said, “hi”.

Status update: Single and writing. I’m actively pursuing one over the other.  But I must confess, I haven’t been writing as much as I used to.

2014 has gotten off to an “interesting start” to say the least. I got a new job, which is always exciting, but has come with a lot of adjusting. The location is a bit father away, the days are longer, and the demands are greater.

We’ve had six or seven snow storms since the new year started, and literally a couple things around me fell apart.

Gutters and roof pieces fell during one of the bad storms…

I bumped into the reporter…

Cell phone fell into pieces, and now the parts don’t fit in the same…

I’m now working and broke, then I was unemployed and saving?

But I still have my health, or what’s left of it. And besides, who’d want that anyway?

Good health is the slowest way to die.

I’m a borderline pessimist.

But yes, I still have a pen and paper (sometimes no pen) and I inked down the first of what I hope is many words of The Reporter and The Girl, and want to do so regularly.

Stories with “superheros”:

funny or die, BDSM, mommy porn, someecards

Thus, I’d like to hear from you all, how has 2014 been treating you? And what are the new changes and are you sticking to them?

P.S– I’ll be featured on March 12th at DIY section….Preview the screenshot below!

parade magazine, s.c rhyne, diy, rose water



March Kindle Fire HD Giveaway!

The Valentine’s Day Kindle Giveaway is still active for another two weeks, so why not also enter into this month’s contest?!

Maybe win two Kindles?

Like my facebook page!

Follow me on Twitter!

Follow my blog!

Each and every follow, like, or tweet counts as entry and you have a chance to log in up to 105 entries!

Enter through the rafflecopter NOW!
a Rafflecopter giveaway


If you post this Kindle Give Away on your blog, not only do you get a virtual high-five for spreading the word, but you can enter into a separate raffle for a Kindle HD (Yep! you can win 3 Kindles this month!).

You have until March 31st to post on your blog.

Giveaway Details

1 winner will receive their choice of an all new Kindle Fire 7″ HDX (US Only – $229 value), $229 Amazon Gift Card or $229 in Paypal Cash (International). There is a second separate giveaway for bloggers who post this giveaway on their blog. See details in the rafflecopter on how to enter to win the 2nd Kindle Fire HDX 7″. Ends 3/31/14 Open only to those who can legally enter, receive and use an Gift Code or Paypal Cash. Winning Entry will be verified prior to prize being awarded. No purchase necessary. You must be 18 or older to enter or have your parent enter for you. The winner will be chosen by rafflecopter and announced here as well as emailed and will have 48 hours to respond or a new winner will be chosen. This giveaway is in no way associated with Facebook, Twitter, Rafflecopter or any other entity unless otherwise specified. The number of eligible entries received determines the odds of winning. Giveaway was organized by Kathy from I Am A Reader and sponsored by the participating authors & bloggers. VOID WHERE PROHIBITED BY LAW. a Rafflecopter giveaway