Guest Contribution: Strengthening Your Relationship for Long-Term Happiness

Nurturing a relationship means focusing on making each moment together the best possible moment. It’s easy to forget that when you get tied up in work and other life issues. According to Graham Lowe Human Solutions, the most common HR challenge is giving employees a work/life balance. Although it might not be easy, making time for your significant other will improve your relationship dramatically. These suggestions will give you some ideas on how to make your relationship grow and blossom into a life full of perfect moments together.

Best Friends Forever

Is your lover a BFF? They should be. A strong relationship is based on a solid friendship. If you’ve not thought about it, what makes your relationship with other BFFs different that the one with your lover? The same compassion, respect and gratitude you have for friends should be there for your partner. You should be supportive of each other but not judgmental. They should be someone you can turn to no matter what the situation is that you’re dealing with.

If this relationship does not feel that way, then it’s time to talk about how it feels different than your other BFF relationships. You may feel compelled to talk with other friends about certain things in your life, but you shouldn’t be afraid to talk with your significant other about anything going on.

Life is Not a Textbook

Reassure each other that your lives are not defined by a book, magazine or TV show. These channels may guide you with general “how to’s” with regards to a number of subjects, but you both have to discover how to meaningfully translate those messages into your own lives. Neither of you may ever cook like Julia Child. You may never have the sexual encounters of a romance movie. But these channels can give you inspiration to do your best in certain areas.

Give each other credit for what you try and learn from, but may never attempt again. Experiment with each other whether it’s in the kitchen or in bed. You will write your own “book” of the way things work for you and it will be more relevant to your relationship than anything else you read or watch.

Look for the Ruts and Avoid Them

As soon as you start feeling like things are getting routine, introduce some new life into the relationship and avoid the rut ahead. Plan a romantic weekend getaway. Be spontaneous and meet your lover in a motel room in some fancy lingerie. Spend a weekend at home with a stack of movies and a kitchen full of snacks and drinks.

If you periodically inject some spontaneous energy into your relationship, you may never feel a rut coming on. Vary the activities so the spontaneity doesn’t become a rut. You’ll soon anticipate those fun events and be even more grateful when they come around.

Just Listen

Practice listening to each other, suggests Your Tango. Most people find that as soon as another person starts talking, the mind goes into overdrive to find something to say. Resist that urge and allow yourself to listen without responding. When people feel “heard” by another person, a connection of comfort and trust between them is created.

Take turns listening to each other and feed back what you heard the other say in your own words. Let them correct you, then repeat. You’ll each learn to listen to each other more effectively which contributes to better communication and fewer misunderstandings.

Visit the Future Together

Psychology Today says a healthy relationship includes looking toward a future with each other. If your lover is “the one”, then conversations about your future together 10 years from now are good. If you’re not sure about it, then talk about what you see each other doing together a year from now.

As you both create pictures in your minds about what your future looks like together, you’re also building pathways of trust. This is another foundational part of the relationship with your lover; trust that you will be together in the future. Doubts about your future together can keep you from fully enjoying the current moments together.

How Does it End?

Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishing. — Anaïs Nin

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Valentine’s Kindle HD Giveaway!

Congratulations to entry #58830 Andy C. winner of January’s Kindle Fire Giveaway!

The February kindle fire is still active until the end of the month and this weekend we launched the Valentine’s Kindle Fire giveaway! So enter, enter, enter!! If you’re a blog follower,  or on Facebook, or Twitter, you’re entitled to an entry.  Also, if you’re on Goodreads — add my debut novel, The Reporter and The Girl, to your shelf, and enter!

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There are multiple bloggers sponsoring this event and and every like, follow, or add counts as an  entry and you can earn up to 93 entries. There has been nearly 35,000 entries so far, so enter today!!

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BOOK REVIEW: The Reporter and The Girl (Minus The Superman) by S.C. Rhyne

TheGirl:

Sweet and simple review… for a hot and spicy debut novel!

Originally posted on BDevereaux.com:

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This author’s blog was one of the first few that I started following when I decided to get this site up and running. So needless to say, I’ve always been interested in her work and the fact that the blog was later converted into her debut novel was all the more incentive for me to read it.

Set in New York, this is certainly not your typical love story. It introduces us to two characters, Sabrien and Jon who give the true definition of the phrase opposites attract. I found myself on a roller coaster of emotions while reading. At a certain point, I was happy for them as an item and later became frustrated with them for their self-destructive behaviors all the while personally relating to Sabrien’s account of the rise and fall of their so-called relationship.

This book is for anyone who’s ever found themselves lost in the…

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Sterling silver jewelry: Giveaway

TheGirl:

A jewelry give away on this blog!! Check it out!

Originally posted on Inspiration MYCreation:

Hi everybody! First off I would like to start out by saying thanks to those who have supported my blogs from day one… I’m doing this for you. There’s a lot that goes into blogging and posting pictures each and everyday, it can be time consuming and sometimes stressful but you all make it fun for me. Since I really enjoy jewelry (like who doesn’t) I supposed I would do a jewelry give giveaway ..somewhat of a Boho-like theme with a value of about $350. Each piece has it’s own unique characteristic about them and you may have seen me wear these pieces once or twice on my blog. These pieces are quite ideal and can be paired with any look or style. The jewelry I will be giving away all have hallmarks engraved with either the designer’s name and or .925 which authenticate sterling silver. This is a ONE…

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Book Review: The Reporter and The Girl (MINUS The Super Man!)

TheGirl:

One of my blog followers wrote this review! You should visit her website for cool finds of other indie works!!

Originally posted on Is It Just Me?:

FrontCover.Final - Copy Have you ever read something that resonated so personally that it could have been your own story? That’s how it felt when I first started reading   The Reporter and The Girl (MINUS The Super Man!)  a blog chronicling the relationship of a women in her 20′s in New York with the elusive and entrancing reporter ‘Jon’.  The blog was so popular that the author S C Rhyne published a novel based on it.

Set in New York Rhyne’s debut novel is a brilliant account of first love between Sabrien Collins and Jon Sudbury. Anyone can relate to the all consuming and overwhelming feelings that come with the ‘fall’. A compelling and truthful account with none of the stereotypical chicklit devices, you won’t find any love triangles here, just an honest and at times cringe inducing tale of love/lust gone awry. While the story is a work of fiction the…

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